Lets talk about after breast cancer surgery
and those ex panders, bras and the upcoming fauxboobies
But first I must say that through this experience I have become a different person in some ways which really is an understatement to say the least. You can’t hear the word’s you have breast cancer, go through double mastectomy, be faced with radiation and chemo and not be different. First and foremost I give praise to God for allowing me not to undergo radiation or chemo. Second, I could not have gone through this without the support and daily care that I got, from my husband, who is my partner and best friend. The daily visits from family and friends, all the phone calls, messages, flowers, cards. Thank you all very much.
In being different, I have come to the conclusion, if the house is not picked up, clothes not folded, dishes not put away, bed not made, oh well, who really cares. For me to stop during the day, to lay down and rest, that just didn’t happen. WELL it has in the last couple of months and I have actually come to like it, along with watching several hours of In The Heat of The Night.
OK, Now to the nitty gritty of what to expect, things to do, questions to ask.
For those reading this for the first time, I had a double mastectomy with tissue ex panders (if you want to see pictures) put in at the same time of surgery. This is about an 8 hour procedure. Then, over several months, saline will be added to them to reach your implant size. This is considered very safe but some do have issues and it can be very painful. The only issue I have had so far is mostly just tightness an I have rebar poking me in the chest, all the time. UGH..
I have talked with others and most say IT’S DAMNED UNCOMFORTABLE, and it is, I don’t care what the surgeons say. You know there are foreign objects in your chest and you can feel the hardness around the edges and sometimes it feels like your chest is going to explode. Sleeping flat just ain’t gonna happen or on your side and there is no way you are going to even think about rolling over on your tummy.
The drains, I had 4, which I think is what most women have after the double mastectomy.
NOTE: if I had known before hand I would have sewn in 4 pockets on the inside of one of Bobbies shirts to hold them instead of the half apron. I was glad to have it but you have to tie it around your waist and let me tell ya..going to the bathroom is chore. Would have made things much easier.
NOTE: when you come home, I think everyone should have a prescription from the doctor to order you a lift recliner. Bobbie has bad shoulders so him lifting me up from the back just wasn’t working. So he ordered a lift chair and we kept it for 5 days. It was a life saver for the both of us.
Then there is your best friend after the drains are removed, THE BRA. Before my breast cancer diagnosis, the first thing I did when I got home was take off my bra, then my shoes. I hate wearing either of them. I hate the bra, but guess what, you get to stuff it with gauze (until you have had about 2 saline fills) and not be made fun of..lolol You have to wear it 24/7. Yeap that is correct. Funny thing, one night I told Bobbie, I have got to take this thing off for a little bit..wrong..I felt so uncomfortable without it that it went right back on. STRANGE, I know.
First, choosing your doctor is the scariest of all. Again, I was blessed to have Dr. Klimberg who is one of the best in her field along with Dr. Yuen for my reconstructive surgery. Due to my experiences with the medical field with both of my parents, I am not the most confident of patients at all. I did not, and still lack good trust for doctors and some nurses. You would have to know my stories to understand and that is completely a whole other story. BUT from the first visit with Klimberg all of my anxieties just went away and I knew it was all going to be OK.
That being said, not everyone, can be that blessed. Don’t be afraid to put your doctor to the test with any and all questions you can think of. Remember they are working for you and not the other way around. You may want to chose to get a second opinion. Remember it is your life and your experience not someone else’s.
For me, I have questioned myself, did I make the best choice with doing the reconstructive surgery? My surgery was in November and this is January and I still ask myself that question everyday. There are times I think, I would be healed and moving on with what I want to do. Hey then I could just take my fake boobie bra and hand it on chair at the end of the day. lolol I am dreading another surgery, but I realize that will be the end of it. Everyone says the end result will be worth it and I hope that they are right.
I started this a couple of months ago and I have debated on putting it out there but if you are reading this and need someone to talk to please email me or call me and I will answer any questions you may have. God Bless
Not only did I have great doctors I loved my nurse Rachel. She always made me feel comfortable with every visit.